We not too long ago celebrated our baby’s third birthday, and the query of what it means to boost a free Black baby has develop into a guiding one on our parenting journey that has been framed by a Black queer feminist abolitionist lens. It has additionally been a central guiding query in our political dedication to deal with hurt, battle, and violence with out pointless further hurt and violence within the types of punishment, disgrace, and isolation. Our strategy to parenthood has been grounded by a dedication to constructing a way forward for care, love, freedom, assist, and self-determination in our on a regular basis life as a manifestation of liberation in our lifetimes, starting in our dwelling and with our baby. For us, that has meant educating him the assertion of his full autonomy, understanding that he ought to consent to the touch and kisses even from his dad and mom, no whoopings/spankings or shaming him for being an expressive toddler, and limiting indoctrination into the PIC (individual in cost) as a lot as doable by monitoring his media enter—which has develop into one other full-time job within the age of an ever current youngsters’s police propaganda.  

As I used to be making ready to mom in a means that mirrored and deepened my politics, I knew the apparent methods youngsters are indoctrinated into our punitive techniques and the PIC: beatings, the denial of autonomy and self-determination, disgrace, and the way these childhood experiences have stunted our means to think about outdoors of the punishment paradigm. And when individuals can’t think about what accountability seems like outdoors of the criminality, accountability turns into one thing to be prevented as a result of it’s related to punishment and ache. The police, probably the most seen actors who bodily embody the PIC, are additionally glamorized.

This glamorization of punishment and policing has been part of a long-running public relations marketing campaign that dates again to the early twentieth century as a part of an try to wash up their detrimental popularity as extorters and paid enforcers of the underground financial system as revealed within the provocative Lexow Commission. Since then, the police have been portrayed in Hollywood as absolutely shaped human beings who’re goofy, tender, brooding, courageous, and heroic—turning them into good, relatable crime-stoppers, as an alternative of the lethal and violent arm of the white supremacist state. Much more, the violence and terror police wreak is framed as noble and essential, as seen throughout media and Hollywood—together with exhibits like Legislation & Order SVU, in addition to youngsters’s exhibits similar to Paw Patrol. Though I knew and realized all of this stuff, inflicting me to sever ties with the likes of Benson and Stabler, I had been naive to the truth that the indoctrination begins as infants.  

Whereas introducing my baby to what’s now one in every of his favourite books, Little Blue Truck Leads the Manner by Alice Schertle, I used to be rudely woke up by a picture of a “busy police automotive, issues to do!” On the time, our baby was just one 12 months previous and I used to be wholly unprepared to start an age applicable police abolition dialog with him, so I did what any accountable radical mother or father would: I scratched out the sirens and all police signifiers with a Sharpie. However then, whereas watching Peppa Pig, one other pleasant and useful cop popped up, and one other whereas exploring vans and cars with Blippi.

It was changing into fairly apparent that like every educating of a younger thoughts, it begins with you and at dwelling, and the police PR machine is right here to #TeachTheBabies. My companion and I started to do our due diligence of quick forwarding and skipping police-involved sections together with sharing with our baby that the police usually are not good and we don’t watch, interact, and most undoubtedly don’t glamorize or costume up as them throughout Halloween, as I’m positive his future classmates will. This has resulted in our toddler unpromptedly yelling “no police!” each time they make a television or e book look.

So we’re not new to the #DefundPawPatrol motion and see it as a essential element to the divestment from policing ideologies and the establishment itself. 

In July, Arissa Corridor’s companion tweeted “ACAB” (All Cops Are Bastards) in response to Paw Patrol saying the present is not going to be canceled.

It additionally means we have to construct and create new, abolitionist alternate options within the type of books, exhibits, artwork, toys and the like, that create the house and circumstances for collective studying and cultivating security and accountability. And though we haven’t found as wealthy of an quantity of abolitionist youngsters’s media to interact, we’re grateful for what exists and is being created and imagined as I write. The e book Lacking Daddy by Mariame Kaba is an instance of this because it creatively explores the impacts of incarceration from a toddler with an incarcerated mother or father. How Mamas Love Their Infants by Juniper Fitzgerald is a child-appropriate e book that highlights the range of labor that mamas interact in to care for his or her youngsters, together with intercourse work.

Works that showcase traditionally marginalized identities as absolutely human perform as an early narrative intervention concerning identities and professions which can be typically criminalized. This is part of the abolitionist parenting mandate for us, in addition to the practices of affection, assist, belief, autonomy, and nonpunitive accountability that fosters radical creativeness to take care of and navigate the total spectrum of humanity that can embrace hurt, battle, and abuse. We will do that all with out the presence of cops or regulation enforcement brokers, and should, in service of making a world of free Black life and our collective liberation.

Arissa Corridor is a born and raised New Yorker, mama, companion, daughter, and sister-friend who’s keen about realizing collective freedom goals and base constructing, in dedication to Black liberation. These passions and commitments have been impressed by each her private {and professional} experiences, whereas guided by a Black queer feminist lens. Presently, Corridor serves because the co-founder and director of Nationwide Bail Out, a collective of Black organizers, legal professionals, and tradition staff dedicated to constructing a community-based motion to finish pre-trial detention and mass criminalization by the usage of tactical bailouts and different strategic instruments.

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